You know it's funny, You can be there for some people when they needed you, in an emergency, your not close with the person but because they needed you , you were there. Then when you need them , they are not there. its too much of like a "chore" for them.
Ugh... Let me explain. I'm not upset, I'm more like disappointed & bothered..
Tonite we had an emergency... I needed a ride to go get Mr. & our car, we asked our land lord which we rent from ( live in the same house) to give me a ride, we even offered her a full tank of gas for her troubles, she didn't show no emotion, she didn't say "I'm sorry" or "I'm sorry I cant help" she just said " well, I'm already in my pajamas... sooooo" Like she was acting like she was laying in bed or something bout to go to sleep. She was watching tv!
So here I had to spend money to take a cab ( spending money on a cab wasn't a issue for me, my main goal was getting to Mr. & bringing him home safe & our car. ) to go get Mr., Now I'm thankful that we got everything straight but here is the thing we discussed ( Mr. & I) We were disappointed she didn't bother to help or care to, it was just a ride.
After all some months back she called us 3 am in the morning, her back went out, me with my medical training, I went straight to her since she asked for help, I helped her get dress, we called 911, I packed a bag , rode in the ambulance with her, we stayed in the hospital with her ALL nite & most of day, we were tired, we wanted to go home but we & I refused to leave her alone in the hospital. Went home got rest, the next few days I visited her, got her car, picked her up from hospital, drove her to get meds, took her home & watched over her. ALL THIS!
Did I mention that we also willingly watch her dog, feed him, take him out, take better care of her dog on most days better than her & when we ask her for a ride & offer her gas for her trouble, we are just brushed off?!
I mean c'mon! The Mr. & i both agreed & said that now we see where we stand with her, more so me, Ive known her since I was 19, ( I'm 26 now) I was very disappointed. We agreed that its a sign that we really need to get everything together to move out of there, & get out of Maryland as well. I'm ready to move... We are just tired of this state for many reasons.
But my readers am I wrong for feeling this way? wouldn't you be like" seriously?" I was like " Oh damn for real?" Let me know your thoughts!
BTW I got a sweet new camera & I cant wait to use it!
I would have been pissed. She could have at least loaned you her car. I hate it when people you think are kind turn out to be complete disappointments.
ReplyDeleteWow how inconsiderate of her (especially with all that you had done for her before).
ReplyDeleteNot having a car, I understand how much of a difference it makes to be able to get a ride somewhere, yet I have friends that are still stingy with giving rides even if I offer money. I just don't get it. If I did have a car, and a friend had no other way to get somewhere (especially if its somewhere we're both going anyway) I wouldn't even think twice about driving them! On the other hand, I have other friends who always offer to give me a ride and who really go out of their way to show they care...if only everyone were like that! lol
I know! Its all good though... Ill just scale back my kindness..
DeleteI don't think you are wrong for feeling that way at all. I have been in the same position feeling the same way- and when I pulled back my giving actions they were upset with me for not doing more! Some people are just focused on their needs and never see the other side. Oh well. (She could have driven in her PJs and never got out of the car too!)
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Thanks for the imput & invite! Sending hugs!
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